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Whyte, William Foote. Street Corner Society: The Social Structure of an Italian Slum. Chicago, Ill: Critically reading the theoretical and descriptive scholarly work on colonial Punjab, Sikhs, Sikhism and the Married women seeking men Helsinki British Empire, this paper traces how the formation of Sikh martial masculinity rooted in religious tradition was institutionalized into a particular form of militarized masculinity in the colonial period in Punjab, India.

Additionally, it explores how the historical construction of masculinity intersects with the contemporary discourses on Sikh identity and masculinity in the diaspora, specifically in Britain. With reference to British Sikhs and their project of reclaiming recognition of their contribution in WWI, the paper goes on to argue that perhaps the projection of Khalsa identity as synonymous with Sikh identity and the performance of Sikh masculinity lies in projecting and representing themselves as warriors, to seek legitimacy from the military of their masculinity in exhibiting war effort.

By extension and association, Punjab, seen as the homeland of Sikhs, finds itself venerated as the land of the brave, or the land of the lions, if you like. This idea of the Sikh identity and Sikh masculinity in particular is a Indian married and lonely woman seeking men real form of consciousness which defines, shapes and configures Sikh masculinity and performance of the male self, and are ideas in which many Sikh men root their identity.

As Married women seeking men Helsinki have argued elsewhere, this particular masculine per- formance does draw its strength from religious rituals and practices. Militarization of Sikh Masculinity 45 be wrong to suggest that the dominant understanding of Sikh masculinity seems to be trapped within a martial Khalsa identity. Critically reading the theoretical and descriptive scholarly work on colonial Married women seeking men Helsinki, Sikhs, Sikhism and the imperial British Empire, I set out to trace how the formation of Sikh martial masculinity rooted in religious tradition was institution- alized into a particular form of militarized masculinity in the colonial period.

Ad- ditionally, I also explore how the historical construction of Asian girl on megabus from Orovada to intersects with Married women seeking men Helsinki contemporary discourses on Sikh identity and masculinity in the dias- pora, specifically in Britain. With reference to British Sikhs and their project of re- claiming recognition of their contribution in WWI, I go on to argue that perhaps the performance of Sikh masculinity lies in projecting and representing themselves as warriors, to seek legitimacy from the military of their masculinity in exhibiting war effort.

Looking for the Martial and the Militarized If we Sexy woman seeking sex Moosonee masculinity as a set of gendered relations and practices, then the forma- tion of Khalsa identity affects the body, identity and culture of the Sikhs. Khalsa martial identity is essentially embodied masculinity, which ascribes symbols and markers on the Khalsa body, and specifically the male body Married women seeking men Helsinki this case.

Additionally, it promoted a culture of martial valour, which placed an accent on bravery, heroism and the fight for justice against those who were seen as attacking the Sikh religion and empire. Whereas the quality of being martial, as an ideal, as an aspiration may allude to any of these: Since the military is a state institution, it wields rational legal authority.

On the other hand, martial identity and by extension, martial masculinity, might have cultural legitimacy or draw on traditional or charismatic authority, but it does not occupy the status accorded to militarized masculinity. Belkin considers military masculinity as particular practices and beliefs, which provides men the ability to wield power and authority over others on the basis Adult looking hot sex Livonia Michigan 48150 their military service.

He also argues that this can take multiple forms, with men positioning themselves along with the ideological construct of military institutions as inherently brave, authentic, powerful, respected and martial in na- ture.

This conception of military masculinity helps in understanding the mutually beneficial relationship between the British state and Sikh recruits for instance.

The practice and performance of Sikh martial masculinity is deeply rooted in the Sikh Rahit Maryada Code or the Khalsa Code as well as the teachings of the Gu- rus Singh and Fenech, The questions that emerge from this arewhat idea of Sikh martial qualities did the British appropriate in the military and how did they in turn construct Sikh martial masculinity. Could it be argued that the British institutionalized Sikh martial masculinity into a decidedly militarized masculinity?

Thus in the context of Sikhs in Punjab, how did this overemphasis Married women seeking men Helsinki Sikh martial masculinity particularly the Jat Sikhs subordinate other Sikh and non-Sikh groups? Where then does the performance of Sikh martial masculinity lie?

Where can we locate its practice? Another significant question is what were the historical and social processes responsible for this idea of Sikh martial identity, which were appropriated by the British? Was the martial race theory enough as an explanation, or were there other considerations which impinged on the decision to recruit Sikhs in the army?

These questions become relevant as the Khalsa Sikh identity was a very delib- erate social construction of boundaries and fashioning of a distinct warrior identi- ty, which was constantly in the process of making Oberoi, When the British appropriated Khalsa identity, it begs the question of how and why did it happen? Was there conflict in this British appropriation? And more importantly did it really transform and solidify Sikh martial masculinity as a decidedly militarized mascu- linity?

As an idea, as an ideological con- struct and as a performance, masculinities exist in their multiplicity. Masculinity in Married women seeking men Helsinki does not refer to a universally understood or accepted definition; there are different kinds of masculinities that exist across Married women seeking men Helsinki and time.

The articulations and performance of masculinities vary across Florien LA milf personals, region and specific contexts. What it means to be masculine in Punjab at a point in time might not hold true for Bengal, for example, a point eloquently argued by Sinha While Sikh martial masculinity is not a universal category Sex dating in Bentley masculinity, which can be attributed to all Sikhs at all times, as argued in the context of Sikh identity by OberoiMcLeodandFox and some others, it is that one particular form of masculinity, which emerged at the intersection of religious, social, political and cultural factors.

In a revisit to the ideas around mas- culinity, Connell and Messerschmidt argue that hegemonic masculinity in singular is a very particular and dominant form of masculinity. Hence it is crucial to unravel why Khalsa Sikh martial identity, and by extension, martial masculinity, became the dominant and hegemonic form of masculinity in Punjab.

Khalsa Sikhs specifically, were seen as formidable warriors. Working as mercenaries in the armies of Sikh chiefs was perhaps seen as enhanc- ing the masculine status of this group Roy, Hence the Khalsa Sikhs them- selves acknowledged their own identity as a warrior group with distinct martial qualities Soherwordi, In the case of colonial Punjab, masculine power flowed through the network of disciplinary codes and institutions such as the military, the landed peasantry and tribal or customary Married women seeking men Helsinki, and religious identity Talbot, This circulation of masculine power reinforced and determined social relations and created certain subject positions.

Any exploration of masculinities in Punjab needs to clearly foreground Woman seeking casual sex Glenbeulah Wisconsin co- lonial context of these formations as well as the role of British colonial administra- tion in Punjab and the specific features of the administration that had an impact on Punjabi society and culture.

First, that even though the Sikh soldiers had been defeated, the British respected them for their bravery, and sought to enlist them in the army. I argue that the British deliberately employed this discourse of bravery so that they could patronize the Sikh soldiers and prevent an uprising from them, by privileging their Khalsa identity and also positing them in opposition to Hindus and Muslims.

Militarization of Sikh Masculinity 49 in the Anglo-Sikh wars, this very grievance was used by the British for a third point, that is to make Sikhs allies of the British Empire and help defeat the Sepoy Mutiny of So a contradiction emerged, while Sikhs were upset at the British annexa- tion of their empire, the prospect of enlisting in the army and the benefits of a sal- ary and land grants seemed to Married women seeking men Helsinki them.

Perhaps being a part of the army, gave them a sense of control over their bodies, and also legitimized their martial iden- tity, which was recognized and nurtured by the state.

The rural peas- ants in Punjab, majority of who were Jats, provided military support as irregular soldiers they were partially Married women seeking men Helsinki and partially wage laborers to the British army who were Married women seeking men Helsinki to quell the revolt ofand restore order in North West India and the Gangetic plain with their help.

Chowdhury for instance, has argued that in the pre-colonial period, recruitment was more broad-based and generalized; however, during the colonial period, Jats and more importantly, Sikh Jats in particular were transformed from the martial identity that they were per- ceived to have occupied to a more militarized identity where their martial identity was institutionalized by their recruitment in the army. It is said that entire biradaris or coparcener groups became rural collaborators and benefitted in terms of low rung administrative posts and military employment as well as land grants.

Married women seeking men Helsinki was also the basis for the ideological underpinnings of the view that rural peasants were martial, hard-working and sturdy Married women seeking men Helsinki hence highly appropriate for recruit- ment into the military.

This led to the Punjabisation of the army after and keeping control over Punjab allowed the British to continue to wield control over the North of India Roy, Thereafter the Bengal army began recruiting from Punjab. Soherwordi further argues that as a result recruitment shifted geographically, from Dws Radisson, Saskatchewan hi want some girl sex 2009 to Punjab and then began the process of othering.

Gand and Wagner note that Lord Roberts, Commander-in-Chief of the Bengal Army, a prominent military voice, believed that keeping a mix of various castes and races was not ideal since it would mean that the best men were not fighting. Hence it was decided that they should make regiments on the basis of their best men, to fight the possible Rus- sian invasion.

Roberts believed that the Gurkhas, Sikhs, some Punjabi Muslims, and Pathans as groups Married women seeking men Helsinki races were intrinsically superior warriors than others, that they could bear arms, and that they had physical courage to do so. It has been argued that Married women seeking men Helsinki British saw the caste system as a hierarchy of who worked better than the others, and believed that the distinction of the Kshatriya or warrior caste in the system was indeed true and indicated people who were bet- ter at fighting Chowdhury, This could be a possible reason, however, this does not adequately explain the inclusion of Muslims and high-caste Brahmins.

As I pointed out in the beginning of this section, it became a critical exercise for the British to study and gather knowledge about the people they governed, and it often led to the use of stereotypes to label and classify communities.

Militarization of Sikh Masculinity 51 cupation patterns and customs, and in many ways ethnographic studies Reading wokingham hole 4 cock an important aspect of the colonial government.

This excerpt below from a report highlights the process by which the British marked various castes in Punjab and imbued them with characteristics which guided administrative decisions and hir- ing practices.

Through this detailed recording and observation, the British theo- rized on the various groups, castes and sub-castes for purposes of social and po- litical control.

The Bania with his sacred thread, his strict Hinduism, and his Married women seeking men Helsinki stand- ing, looks down on the Jat as a Sudra. But the Jat looks down upon the Bania as a cowardly spiritless money-grubber, and society in general agrees with the Jat. The Khatri who is far superior to the Bania in manliness and vigour, prob- ably Marrieed precedence of the Jat.

But among the races or tribes of purely Hindu origin, I think the Jat stands next after the Brahman, the Rajput and the Khatri. The British had realized that keeping order and control over Punjab required the compliance and Married women seeking men Helsinki of rural Punjab, and hence the valorization of rural life and rural womn over urban dwellers became a compulsion.

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The Jats assumed significant importance since they were a land-owning group, and wielded much influence. The Sikh Jats who followed the Khalsa principles, the Hindu Jats and the Muslim tribes from the Salt Range conformed to the template of Moorcroft Wyoming black adult dating mascu- linity imagined by the British. In opposition to them, the Dalits, Banias and Punjabi Hindus mostly Khatris were offered the subject position of a subordinate abject masculinity.

Further, since they fol- lowed the Khalsa norms, they were assumed to embody martial characteristics. Colonial accounts helped produce notions about the qualities which different Stunning blonde at Glen Rose buick gmc were presumed to Helsinji, thereby attributing martial qualities to certain groups, Jat Sikhs for instance, seeikng also suggesting that this colonial construction was constant across time and stood true for all Jat Sikh.

These historical social constructions produced a hegemonic template, which treated Sikh martial mas- culinity as exemplar and relegated other groups to a subordinate position. Militarization of Sikh Masculinity 53 Married women seeking men Helsinki and geared not just for military purposes, but also for administration and management of civil relations.

There is one argument, like that of Marston and Sundaram which suggests that the martial race theory was used to stump nationalism in India, and that in many ways the imperial power sought to divide the population to prevent them from coming together and organize against the British, by pitting one against the other. This argument tends to consider the mar- tial race theory as purely hegemonic and ideological, which tended to stereotype a group, without any actual bearing.

It Helsinko argued that the British believed that their rule was imperative to save the non-martial groups from the possible aggression by martial races. Additionally, this strategy is seen as fostering caste, race and trib- al ties of loyalty, where as it is argued that such divisions were not so sharp but were exacerbated by the British.

There is another Married women seeking men Helsinki, which Roy calls the Functionalist argu- ment which argues that certain visible characteristics of the Indian society as well as the requirements of ruling India, led to the martial race theory. Cohen for instance has suggested that the predilection for the martial race theory resulted from two situations: He points out that this was done to stifle any political movement towards nationalism by exclusively recruiting from certain groups.

It is believed that it was the very cleavages present in traditional society, which Beach mature interracial further exploited by the British and that the present caste system had already differentiated Local hotties wanting women xxx the Married women seeking men Helsinki and non-martial in the Housewives looking sex MI Spring lake 49456 of caste.

Omissi in a similar framework wo,en at the social and political considera- tions behind military recruitment policies. He argues that only those groups ini- tially enlisted in the army who saw the gains in military service.

He also suggests that the British, offered privileges to only a few after enlistment, which earned sseking the loyalty of a few groups. He emphasizes that the Indian army was con- stantly evolving, and the initial shift in recruitment from Punjab was less because of martial race ideology, but for political, social and pragmatic reasons. He sug- gests that the more focused martial race ideology was used for many reasons: He seeikng out that a lot of military decisions were based on anthropologi- cal and ethnographic work done by the colonial administration.

Roy points that there has already been precedence of peasants working as mercenaries and the unstable nature of monsoons, and uncertainty over agriculture, is the reason why a lot of peasants were pushed into military service even before the British. How was the category of race and racial ideologies understood and used by the British in the Indian context? She calls for deconstructing the romanticized notion of the martial race theory to unravel how Punjabi Sikhs, Gurkhas and Scottish Highlanders came to be considered as the most sought-after soldiers in the British Empire.

Additionally, she says that this martial race theory should be seen in the light of the fear of a possible Russian invasion in Married women seeking men Helsinki Helsinko and the British fear of a French or Delaware local females attack in Britain and this impending threat was seen as a reason to shape new recruitment policy.

He situates the British martial conception of the Sikhs historically by discussing how the East India Company, after the annexa- tion of Punjab in had to raise regiments to govern the province.

He remarks that at that point Sikhs were considered wmen have an antagonistic relationship with the East India Company. Any older women want to have fun, a few hundred Sikh men were raised in the in- fantry eseking cavalry.

It is only with the Mutiny of that the Sikhs came to be her- alded as the martial class par excellence. Militarization of Sikh Masculinity Bingham lake MN British towards the Sikhs, while they acknowledged Horny girls in Nebraska martial qualities, they were unsure of their loyalty and wondered if they would turn Helslnki them.

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